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are interested mostly about what the client wants, and how he is going to get it. |
are not interested in what the client wants to get rid of, and tries to forget. |
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believe people are driven mostly by their desired yet uncertain future. |
do not believe people are controlled by some early childhood traumatic past. |
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tend to ask people about their strengths, abilities, and past successes. |
avoid asking people about their weaknesses, shortages, and past faults. |
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use the client's own unique language. |
do not use any professional jargon. |
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ask questions proven again and again to be useful. |
do not give answers proven to be useless. |
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try to be helpful. |
do not try to be truthful. |
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want our clients to live better after meeting with us. |
do not want to leave our footprints in clients' lives. |
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hope to assist every person we see become happier with himself and the people around him. |
do not hope to reconstruct anyone's personality, family, or social systems. |
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expect changes for the better to be inevitable, and so they happen. |
expect no resistance, transfer, or acting out, and so these do not happen. |
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respect real life as it is and real people as they are. |
do not respect theories about how life should be or how people have become the way they are. |
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focus on the possible solutions to the clients' problems. |
do not focus on the possible causes to the clients' problems. |
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care that clients develop their foresight. |
do not care if clients get any insight. |
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value all people we meet. |
do not evaluate them. |
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are experts in useful and helpful questioning. |
are not experts in sophisticated and clever answering. |
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try to make people laugh or at least smile in our sessions with them. |
do not try to make people go through any catharsis or other dramatic experiences. |
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agree we all need some help from time to time. |
do not try to make people go through any catharsis or other dramatic experiences. |
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are interested in whether our clients consider our work in some way effective for them. |
are not interested in whether other professionals consider our work in some way defective. |
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love seeing people and having human contact with them. |
hate establishing eye contact with people by staring at them. |
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listen to people when they talk, and hear what they say. |
do not listen to concepts about what people hide when they talk. |
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enjoy vivid descriptions and miracle stories. |
get bored by elaborate explanations and tragic stories. |
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give homework tasks. |
do not give advice. |
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look for our own mistakes when in doubt, and try to correct them. |
do not look for our clients' wrong maps, and do not try to correct them. |
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try to figure out what else might be helpful. |
do not try to find out what else might be wrong. |
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take what we hear from clients at face value. |
do not analyze what we hear, trying to add our own value to it. |
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hear only our clients' actual voices. |
do not hear any Sigmund's or other hallucinatory voices |
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enjoy our work very much indeed. |
do not enjoy much money from it. |
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shall follow the solution-focused way, even though it is the road less taken. |
shall not enter the labyrinth of endless dead ends, even though it is the usual thing done. |
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