When working the solution-focused way,

We…

… are interested mostly about what the client wants, and how he is going to get it. … are not interested in what the client wants to get rid of, and tries to forget.
… believe people are driven mostly by their desired yet uncertain future. … do not believe people are controlled by some early childhood traumatic past.
… tend to ask people about their strengths, abilities, and past successes. … avoid asking people about their weaknesses, shortages, and past faults.
… use the client's own unique language. … do not use any professional jargon.
… ask questions proven again and again to be useful. … do not give answers proven to be useless.
… try to be helpful. … do not try to be truthful.
… want our clients to live better after meeting with us. … do not want to leave our footprints in clients' lives.
… hope to assist every person we see become happier with himself and the people around him. … do not hope to reconstruct anyone's personality, family, or social systems.
… expect changes for the better to be inevitable, and so they happen. … expect no resistance, transfer, or acting out, and so these do not happen.
… respect real life as it is and real people as they are. … do not respect theories about how life should be or how people have become the way they are.
… focus on the possible solutions to the clients' problems. … do not focus on the possible causes to the clients' problems.
… care that clients develop their foresight. … do not care if clients get any insight.
… value all people we meet. … do not evaluate them.
… are experts in useful and helpful questioning. … are not experts in sophisticated and clever answering.
… try to make people laugh or at least smile in our sessions with them. … do not try to make people go through any catharsis or other dramatic experiences.
… agree we all need some help from time to time. … do not try to make people go through any catharsis or other dramatic experiences.
… are interested in whether our clients consider our work in some way effective for them. … are not interested in whether other professionals consider our work in some way defective.
… love seeing people and having human contact with them. … hate establishing eye contact with people by staring at them.
… listen to people when they talk, and hear what they say. … do not listen to concepts about what people hide when they talk.
… enjoy vivid descriptions and miracle stories. … get bored by elaborate explanations and tragic stories.
… give homework tasks. … do not give advice.
… look for our own mistakes when in doubt, and try to correct them. … do not look for our clients' wrong maps, and do not try to correct them.
… try to figure out what else might be helpful. … do not try to find out what else might be wrong.
… take what we hear from clients at face value. … do not analyze what we hear, trying to add our own value to it.
… hear only our clients' actual voices. … do not hear any Sigmund's or other hallucinatory voices
… enjoy our work very much indeed. … do not enjoy much money from it.
… shall follow the solution-focused way, even though it is the road less taken. … shall not enter the labyrinth of endless dead ends, even though it is the usual thing done.

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